Stuck In A Rut
Do you ever get the feeling that you’re stuck in a rut? It’s unsettling, it’s “blah,” and it’s seemingly unshakeable. Whether academic or creative, some cogs in your brain just don’t seem to be operating where they should be. You’re stuck in the same routine day in and day out, and you seem to lose touch with what you really care about. Well, if that’s you, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone, and most importantly, that this feeling is shakeable.
The world we live in today is nothing short from demanding. We are constantly bombarded by societal ideals that tell us we should go to university, graduate by 22, have a stable career at the age of 30, and have a house and children by the time we’re 40. All these perceived ideals tell us something about how we should feel and live.
Sometimes it’s hard for us to pinpoint why we feel certain ways, especially when we are constantly bombarded with social, academic, and financial stressors. The stressors we face demand a piece of us, ultimately wearing us down into a full-blown rut. As I reflect on my own personal experiences, I’ve come to realize that when the life I’m living out today is not aligned with my true-self, I fall into a rut.
Famous humanistic psychologist, Carl Rogers, brought forth the idea that when people believed they could achieve their goals, wishes, and desires in life, self-actualization took place. He believed that humans have one basic motive, and that it’s to fulfill one’s potential. Rogers further proposed that self-actualization occurs when a person’s “ideal self” (who they would like to be) is aligned with their actual behaviour (self-image). If you’re interested in reading more about this, I suggest you check out this link.
As students, it becomes easy to push aside our interests and desires to focus on our academics. We work as much as we can in order to afford our tuition, books, and living expenses, and as a result we begin to neglect ourselves.
So, how do we fix this?
There are a couple different ways to go about this. Here are some things that have worked for me:
Meditate: Meditation is a great way to flood out the anxiety that builds up within us. Achieving a mentally clear and emotionally calm state means reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. Meditation every morning (it can be short) is a great way to get yourself thinking more clearly about what you.
Ground yourself: This is one of my favourite things to do. If you’ve ever felt pent up with energy and anxiety, you probably aren’t grounded. Brining these energy levels down through exercise or other forms of therapeutic activities (meditation). It’s important to do something that is therapeutic and enjoyable for yourself.
How do you get yourself out of a rut? I’d love to hear your suggestions in the comments below!